Interview
After reading the book named ‘The Long Season of Rain’, students were asked to interview an acquaintance who is a modern woman and I decide d to interview my mother. It is because in my opinion, she is different the women who lived in the past.
What is your name and maiden name?
My name is Lee Mi Hyang. In Korea, we do not change the surname when we get married. Therefore my surname is Lee.
What is your date of birth?
March 1, 1964
What is your place of birth?
I was born in the country side, Pho Hang and I was born in my house because at that moment, we do not usually go to hospital to birth.
What is your ethnicity?
I think my ethnicity is ‘harmony’ and ‘family love’ because I am Korean.
Where were your parents, brothers and sisters born?
They were born in the country side, Pho hang, as same as me
Where were your children born? Include their names.
I have only child whose name is Kwon Na Young and Na Young was born in Seoul.
Where have you lived?
I have lived in the country side, Pho Hang and did not do regional immigration.
What language do you speak?
I speak Korea
What is your citizenship?
I am Korean
Birth to Adolescence
Where did you live as a child?
I lived in the Pho Hang. The location was in the country side.
When you were growing up, what was the role of boys and girls in the family?
The time I was born was about 1960’s so there was discrimination between girls and boys. At that moment, boys were more important than women. Therefore, the roles of boys and girls were extremely different. Usually, boys did not do anything, but for girls, they help their mother such as washing clothes, washing the dishes and more several things. I think… this story is all about me,.. (smiling^0^) If I use an example, I think I should talk about my mother.
My mother always took care of her husband and worked outside such as farming. In brief, boys were the king.
Were there any “coming of age” ceremonies or significant events?
At that moment, we do not celebrate a lot. When I became 20, I just celebrate with my friends. I had the
meal in the expensive restaurant and I went to the coffee shop and talked with my friends. My parents were indifferent about the ‘coming of age’ ceremony so it was natural that I could not have any present or small event. In addition, my siblings and relatives were in different about the ‘coming of age’ day.
Describe your neighborhood when you were in junior high school (grades 6-9).
My father’s job was a teacher, so we transferred the house a lot. When I was grade 6, I did not live with my mother for a year. There were only 3 houses and I was not so close with my neighbor. However when I turned to grade 7, my family moved to another house. There was a policeman who lived next to my house. He was so friendly and his hobby was fishing. We were close each other so he usually caught fish and gave them our house. Also there was another neighbor who had an orchard. The family lived in front of my house. I used to go to the orchard and ate apples.
How are young boys and girls treated at that time? Were you treated differently?
From the ancient time, daughters were scorned and there was a prejudice that males must not come in the kitchen. Girls were just recognized as the people who make meal every day. The discrimination was not so severe but boys were the first all the time. I have two sisters and one brother, so my sisters and I could feel favoritism especially when it comes to buying things because my sister and I could not buy anything because of my brother. I was treated differently if I think about my brother.
What were the roles of adult women in the family?
The roles of adult women were a lot. They always had to take care of their families. In my opinion, they had to do everything such as preparing meals, washing the dishes, and so on. They most important thing was adult women always had to think about their husband’s families. In addition, if there were some ceremonies in their husband’s families, women were the one who prepared everything for events.
Adult life
What jobs did you throughout your life?
At first, I helped my mother to work as household affairs. After few years, I moved to Seoul and I worked in the City Hall as a public official
What were women doing during your adult life? What roles did they perform?
At that moment, even if we had a dream, we could not have any choice because women were limited in the society. Also there were no variety jobs for women. At last, women work as a housewife or get pregnant and take care of their babies.
What difficulties did women have to go through?
Women have to overcome the favoritism. For example, women were limited in the society and it also happened in the company. When girls get pregnant, that is the time when they had to mind co-workers to defend to be fired. It is because companies usually do not prefer women who have babies. For example, if their children have any problem, they might be absent or after the pregnancy, they need to rest. Therefore there is some discrimination. Another problem is a son preference. If women birth a baby girl, some women had to get pregnant again to birth a baby boy. The other problem was the conflict between mother-in-law and the wife because mother-in-law always had high expectation about the wife of her son.
What cultural beliefs surrounded the way women:
Dressed, Behaved, Worked, Studied
I do not have any cultural beliefs about the women.
Performed duties such as being a mother, wife, sister, or daughter
Duties of mother are taking care of children and marry with a good husband. For duties of wife are a wife needs to take care of husband and help the family to live healthy so that the family can perform a happy family. For duties of sister are, taking care of younger sisters and if they have any problem a sister need to help them and take care them as a mother. For duties of daughter is to study hard so that the daughter can achieve the expectation of mother.
What influenced changes in culture? Western culture? Education? How?
I think international cultural exchange inflows, Christian culture, development of IT (Internet) and more several things were the factors of changing Korea.
Women of today
What is your opinion of women of today?
In my opinion, modern women are very different from before. In addition, high percentage of education made women to have variety careers. Nowadays, many women who are open-minded and global help to raise the social participation of women. Unlike the past, women started to share with their husbands on parenting issues.
What advice could you give to young women like me?
First, you need to be humble, honest and truthful all the time. You always need to respect parents and you need to be friendly friends and siblings to get a sense of companionship. Memory of school days is very important and it does do comeback so please do not waste the time and do not spend it regretfully. I recommend to have your dreams and goals. Try your best as you can. Thank you.